Archive for May, 2007

Community & My Son

Posted on 2007-05-29. Filed under: Thoughts |

So, I’m reading Sex God and he starts talking about community and how it comes from our commonalities. And these commonalities aren’t created so much as discovered. They have always been there and as we discover them, we find community.

He then talks about how we respect gifts not so much for their intrinsic value but for reasons that have more to do with how we feel about the giver. Specifically, he mentions a homemade gift from a five-year-old boy to his father. The gift is made out of a few things found in an alley but the father still has the gift on his shelf in his office thirty years later.

It makes me think about how my son is always so giving. He really enjoys sharing and because he enjoys sharing, he expects others to share with him. For him, everything is available for the asking. And, he’s always asking! But, he’s always giving too.

I’m thinking that my boy has it right. In our commonality, we should share more freely. This is a trait that I want to encourage in him. It goes well with his outgoing nature. As we give to one another, we show love to one another. And this expression of love is not only because of our feelings for that particular person but it is also because of our feelings for that person’s Maker – God.

Just as the father kept the gift from the alley and considered it special because of how he felt for the maker of that gift,  so should we consider others special not only for who they are but also because of who made them and how we feel towards him. It is one more way to show gratitude for the mercy and grace and love that he has shown towards us.

So, I will be trying to formulate a new habit of discovering community with other people and expressing love to them. Even if they are one of the types of people that irritate me severely, I will do it not for them (or not only for them) but for Him.

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Posted on 2007-05-24. Filed under: Thoughts |

Yeah, like miscellanea but different.

I’ve had a sinus infection for almost a week now so I’ve begun using my neti pot again. With that and the yoga I’ve been doing, you might as well paint a red dot on my forehead.

I just finished Velvet Elvis this morning. That book really spoke to me. The author is reiterating a lot of the exact thoughts I’ve had since graduating with my degree in Religious Studies in 1996.  I hope to start his second book soon: Sex God.

I’m coming down to the wire on the weight challenge. This past week, I’ve went backwards but I hope to regain that. Lots of water, caffeine and no sugar and little fat. I’m also eating throughout the day – grazing as it were. I’m trying to avoid big meals and I’m trying to avoid eating late in the evening.

Yesterday, without meaning to, I sold two server installations in five minutes. WTF? I really wasn’t trying to do that. I just wanted to call a guy and let him know about a problem he was having. So, before the end of the week, the hardware will probably be ordered. That means that in the next two months, I have four server installations – and two weeks of vacation! I remember the good old days in the early ’00s when the work slowed down during the summer months. So, this means we’re going to have a good year. But, it also means we’re going to have to get help from our vendors to roll out our nationwide service. We’ll pay them to do the integration of all the pieces rather than doing it ourselves because we just don’t have time.

My mom just called me today and said her beach trip with her sisters was cut short. They do this every year but this year they received a call that the home of one of my aunts  had burned down. So, they all returned home. She has apparently lost everything and didn’t have insurance on the home. That’s a sad situation.

So, those are things on my mind right now. Time to get back to work…

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Posted on 2007-05-13. Filed under: Thoughts |

Tonight I read in Velvet Elvis the following:

Shalom is the presence of the goodness of God. It’s the presence of wholeness, completeness.

The author, Rob Bell, goes on to say (as he remembers something said to him):

And then he said, in what has become a pivotal moment in my journey, “Your job is the relentless pursuit of who God has made you to be. And anything else you do is sin and you need to repent of it.”

The relentless pursuit of who God made me to be.

I started identifying how much of my life was about making sure the right people were pleased with me. And as this became more and more clear, I realized how less and less pleased I was with myself. What happens is our lives become so heavily oriented around the expectations of others that we become more and more like them and less and less like ourselves. We become split.

When I read this, it reminded me of what a friend told me this past week:

I pray you will have hope and be encouraged beyond what you can see. Don’t try and shoulder the burden for who other people are or your fears about what they might become.

I’m realizing that I need to be true to the calling God has placed on my life. I can’t be concerned about what others may think or what may happen to them because my God is their God too and he can take care of us all. If I follow His calling, everything else should work out. That doesn’t mean it will be easy or enjoyable or painfree but it will work out. This brings new meaning to me for the 28th verse in the 8th chapter of Romans:

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

Follow God and everything else will work out. Also, in Matthew 6:33-34:

But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

So, I shall pursue shalom. I will pursue wholeness – to be all of the person God has called me to be. He has made me unique and He had a reason to do so. I will not try to be who others expect me to be. I will be me – the real me – and as I follow God that “me-ness” will fall more and more into God’s will and fulfill his glory. Twice in the past week (from two very different sources), I heard this saying (paraphrased):

Jesus loves me exactly as I am and yet loves me too much to let me stay this way.


Both of the thoughts wrapped up in that sentence give me comfort and encourage me to move forward towards shalom.


Edited to add:

OK, after posting this last night, I woke up and read one of the blogs I’ve been reading for over a year and this is what she has to say:

Don’t get hooked by someone else’s issues. Taking the high road will help you avoid additional complications.  … Other people need to deal with their own issues and it is not your problem to solve. If we take responsibility for problems not our own then


1) They don’t usually get “solved” with good long term solutions.


2) They create a lot of tension between the parties involved


3) The person who should be solving the issue doesn’t or is left without the chance to move to a higher level.


 OK, OK, OK. I’m getting this message from enough places. Thank you Father for making sure I don’t miss the message. Right now, I need that; I’m feeling a little obtuse.

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